Sex life usually related to sex between a man and a woman, but the following tips are also true if you are two men, two women or any other combination. The main thing to remember is that sex life related to human relationships, and as such, it is complicated issue. The basics of any relationship issues know your partner; communicate with each other and very important, give, give and give again.
1) Know Yourself
- What do you like regarding sex?
- What are your most sensitive zones in your body?
- What turns you on?
- Do you like watching yourself touching and pleasuring yourself?
- Do you like watching your partner pleasuring her/him self?
- Where do you like touching yourself?
- Where do you like your partner to touch you?
- Do you have zones which are too sensitive in your body? Where every touch should be very gently?
- Do you like pain? (It’s ok)
- Do you like surprises?
You see, you must know yourself in order to have great sex life, and it is always a good time to start and learn and explore your own body. In order to answer all these questions (and many more) I can suggest you do the following:
- Take a few hours for yourself, find a quiet and intimate place (preferably at home alone).
- Take a blank paper; write down the aforementioned questions and more.
- Take off your clothes and start explore. It is better if you have a big mirror where you can see yourself.
- Don’t be shy; it is just you, your body and your soul. Ask yourself any question comes in your mind, and explore for the answer. Pleasure is completely legitimate, nude is beautiful. This is how we created.
Do it once, or more, as much as you need in order to know yourself best. It is better that your partner will do the same, but separately.
2) Know Your Partner
After you know yourself it is time to know each other. In order to know your partner you should ask him or her, all those questions you asked yourself earlier. Now it’s time both of to take a day off or maybe a weekend, and explore each other bodies and feelings, ask each other questions and LISTEN to the answers.
3) Listen to Your Partner
Asking questions is not enough, you must listen carefully to the answers of your questions, I GUARANTEE you that you will learn new things about your partner, you WILL have some surprises.
4) Understand Your Partner and the Situation
You must understand that sex between two (or more) people must have all the people involved a real true will and desire to do it. Sometimes you have the desire to eat chocolate but your partner wants to eat cheese cake, you are not identical! It is the same in sex, sometimes you both in to it, but when this is not the case, you should honor each other and wait for some other time.
5) Always Explore
When you are having sex, it is important that you try new things, new type of sensation, harder and softer caresses, try different zones of your bodies, use different organs to touch, hands, hair, lips, tongue and so on. Remember what your partner told you he likes best, and do as he or she likes best. Keep listening to your partner, his breathing, her groaning as much as you will be sensitive to your partner, he/she will be to you, and you will both win big time.
6) Learn Fro The Experts
Learn from each other is very important, it is the most important. In addition you can also benefit from learning from the experts. Read books, magazines and blogs about sexuality, listen to the experts about sexuality and about relationships, I am sure you will find great benefits and your sex life will reach new heights.
7) Give, Give and Give Again
The very basic rule of life is this, as much as you give is as much as you will get in return. Relations and sex is the same, love your partner (even if it is not a long term relationship, you are in bed now, love each other this moment) think about him, give her the pleasure of her life, I promise you, you will get back hundreds time more than you give. BUT, you must give with all your heart and don’t wait for the return…
8) Sex Toys
Sex toys are wonderful, mainly because these are TOYS, and everybody love toys. These toys can teach you things you never knew about your body, even after you got to know yourself. They rip off many barriers, and they give you the opportunity to loosen yourself. There are sex toys for men and for women, there are sex toys for every organ of your body. Organs like penis, clitoris, G–Spot, P–Spot, anal toys, nipple toys and many more will experience amazing new sensations once using sex toys.
Do you know what is the largest sex organ in your body?
Need a clue? It is between your ears and not between your legs…
Use your imagination, fantasy, most women and many men find it much easier to reach orgasm when fantasies, you can think whatever you want, it is your head, no one can get inside… If you need ideas you can find many free sex stories on the internet, read them for yourself or read them loud to your partner, I promise you, this will make you very hot!
It is best to have sex when there is no time pressure and when there is no pressure at all. Find the right time for you, but have at least an hour. You can start with having a mutual bathtub or shower, light a candle, and breath. Close your eyes and for a few moments just breathe, you can count your breathes, once you get to 100 it is a good start. Once both of you relax, you can look in each other eyes, tell your partner how much you love each other and start having fun.
In our life we must reach decisions in many aspects, if we won’t decide, nothing will happen. I guess that if you read this article you already decided that you want to have a better sex life, but my suggestion to you is — decide that you are having a good sex life, decide it together with your partner that you are doing everything in order to have the best sex. Decision has magic, once you really decide something, it become real.
Now all that you and your partner have left to do is, have sex, as many times as you like to do, and enjoy it every time even more…